". . . little shall I grace my cause

In speaking for myself. Yet, by your gracious patience,

I will a round unvarnish'd tale deliver . . ."

(William Shakespeare's Othello, I.iii.88-90)

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Should I Be Worried?

Yesterday at the end of Evan's community children's chorus practice, one of his fellow choristers, a lovely young lady of, oh, about eight, came up to him and, with ponytail swinging and cheeks glowing, announced, "I have a crush on you." What did my son the Calvin & Hobbes devotee do? Did he cringe, grimace and immediately convene a meeting of the G.R.O.S.S. (Get Rid Of Slimy Girls) club? 

Um, no. Instead he returned smile for smile and declaration for declaration--"I have a crush on you, too!"--and was rewarded for his devotion with an audible kiss on the cheek from said pony tail wearer. At which point he proceeded to go around the room telling anyone who would listen, "She has a crush on me and I have a crush on her. We have a crush on each other."

This is a new kind of child for me. Any thoughts on how to proceed would be welcome. 

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Is this how it was before the Fall?

I worship children. :) :(

J.S.

Michelle said...

Ask Evan what does a crush mean to him? It is normal for this to happen. But I would talk to Evan about how God wants us to treat each other. And it is okay if he finds "girls" pretty and and special. Tell him that right now you and Phil want him to be friends with girls and that some day he will be ready to get married. And right now having friends that are girls is an important part of getting ready to have a wife some day. Both of my boys have had crushes and so we have had similar conversations. They are sweet moments that I will remember forever. I wouldn't be worried yet....

Cheryl said...

Jane, I think you are on to something.

Michelle, thank you. What you describe is close to how I handled it. I'm not worried yet. This is a child who loves people. I think he would have a crush on anyone who had one on him!